The Lost Generation

I have been fortunate to be able to bring much of my ministry work into my college classes and vise versa.  This blog actually started because my class, "Tools for the Digital Age" required a blog.  I was able to choose my topic and make it my own.

Mentoring is a subject that the Lord has laid on my heart and I have had the opportunity through school to research many aspects of mentoring.  Last semester I had to write a speech and video myself giving it.  The speech had to discuss a problem, a solution, cite five creditable sources, and call the audience to action in less than five minutes.

I chose mentoring, of course, what better subject could there be!?  It was difficult to get all the information in while citing other sources in such a short period of time.  I hope you are persuaded to look at your own heart, search for the right tools, and begin a new culture within your group.  You can watch the video by clicking the link below.

The Lost Generation 

Time is what separates each generation, but time is also what brings us together!

Open and Shut Doors

I have been hosting a radio show on KWXC 88.9 in Grove, Ok which can also be heard live at www.kwxcradio.com, every Friday at noon since April 2016.  The show is called Proverbs 31:30 Woman to Woman.  I invite Christian women to share what God has done in their life, what they are doing for the Him, or how they came to know Jesus as Lord.  Each woman that I have interviewed has had something valuable to share with me, and with all who listen to their story.  Some women step on my toes while others have opened my eyes and blessed my heart.  It has been exciting to watch these women light up with God’s love as they share about Him.

Recently, I had the privilege of sharing my testimony on the show.  The station owner, Debbie Martin, interviewed me about when I gave my life to the Lord, how I began writing, and the new door that has opened to host my own radio show.

After sharing my story, it’s hard to believe that it’s real.  There have been times in my Christian life that I felt stagnant, unproductive, and useless.  There have been things I have done that didn’t seem that they would ever be accomplished.  I think I wrote and re-wrote my first Bible study, “Rebekah’s Confidence”, three times over a period of two years.  I was afraid to publish it, scared to call myself an author, and terrified that others would hate it.  For me to now say that I have written and published three Bible studies is a long way from where I started 8 years ago. 

I am thankful for the doors that God has opened for me, and I am just as thankful for the doors He has shut in my face.  This year has been a pivotal year in my life with many doors opening to me and I am excited to be walking through those doors with His guidance each step of the way.

Remember to be thankful for the doors God shuts, they are blessings too.

Mentoring in the Church

Hello everyone, welcome to the first episode of Sharin Hearts; your Christian mentoring connection for resources, tools, and encouragement into the journey of discipleship through mentoring.  This is your host Sharon Hoskins. 

Today, I would like to talk about the lack of Christian mentoring within the church. 

While the church is faithful to offer discipleship to those who are new to the Christian faith, it has overlooked the importance of a continued discipleship through mentoring.

I didn’t understand the importance of having a mentor until recently and realized that the most difficult time of my Christian life was when I had no one to share it.    

Although I went to church and was a part of the ladies group, I didn’t have that specific person that I could call on for prayer and counsel. 

I’ve learned that having a mentor is having someone to share in my struggles and joys.

My mentor is my cheerleader, my sounding board, and my confidante.  She is a person that will pray with me, listen to my emotional craziness, and give me godly wisdom and counsel. 

I believe that the lack of mentoring offered in the church is a lack of an awareness of its importance.   

This problem can be solved by starting a program that connects women for the purpose of mentoring. 

This program would explain mentoring, make it available, and allow women to build relationships to find a mentor that is right for them. 

I started asking the ladies at my church about mentoring; their opinions, thoughts, ideas, and experiences.  This has already made an impact on at least one relationship.

With the help of two or three women who share the same passion, mentoring can become contagious within the church. 

Talking about it will make others aware of how important it is and cause them to join in. 

I would ask you to prayerfully consider mentoring, no woman is too young or old to be a mentor or have a mentor. 

I hope this has encouraged you to get involved in mentoring.  If you have any questions, ideas, or advice please leave a comment.  You can follow this site and like Sharin Hearts on Facebook; I’d love to have you join me on this journey to learn and grow together.

Let’s begin a new trend and start sharing our hearts through mentoring each other! 

I look forward to our future visits, talk to you soon…bye!

A Hand out of Hiding

As a Christian, I have heard the story of David and Goliath (1 Samuel 17:41-52) more times than I can count.  I can recall the accounts of this event without even looking at the scriptures.  You would think that when the title of the sermon message is: David: The Moment of Truth, I would want to take a nap.  What more could I possibly learn from a story that has been dissected in detail and explained in depth? 

That is what is so great about God’s word.  It is described as living, powerful, and sharper than a double edged sword (Hebrews 4:12) because no matter how many times you hear a message, God can reveal something fresh to your heart.  My "aha" moment came from verse 52, “And the men of Israel and of Judah arose, and shouted, and pursued the Philistines” (1 Sam. 17:52).  These men had all been hiding; for days, but now they are chasing the enemy.

With the story of David and Goliath, we have been given encouragement to defeat the giants in our life.  Giants being our own fears or obstacles we face.  We may be dealing with health, relationship, or financial issues.  It may be a new endeavor, a new job, or any number of things that seem huge in our life.  We are encouraged to face the giant, confront the giant, and slay the giant, but that requires us to come out of hiding.  Hiding places feel safe, but they block our sight-line, they skew our vision, and give us false comfort.

What caused these men to come out of hiding?  David encouraged them when he stepped out in faith and defeated Goliath.  From the view of their hiding place, it looked like the odds were in Goliath’s favor.  They couldn’t see clearly until David gave them hope, encouragement, and an example to follow.  My sermon notes say, “Use the victory to encourage others in the battle” (Marty Hughes).

This is the definition of mentoring.  There are people around you who may be afraid.  They may be facing some huge issues (giants) in their life.  They may not know how to do anything but hide.  You can give them hope, encouragement, and be an example for them to follow.  You can be an ear to listen, a partner in prayer, and a comforter by reaffirming God’s word in their life.  You can help them out of hiding, just as David did the army of Israel. 

Extend a hand to help others out of hiding...be a mentor.

Saving Grace

I had the privilege to tour Saving Grace; a home for girls who have “aged out” of children’s homes and foster care, started by Becky Shaffer.  Their facility is part of an old hospital, but it has been transformed into a home with living, dining, and kitchen areas for these young women to share but each has her own room. 

Becky explained that there are hundreds of young women who are facing homelessness because they are too old to be in state custody.  In light of this reality for their lives, they turn to illegal activities such as prostitution, shoplifting, and other crimes.  Saving Grace gives them a safe and stable home, life skills, educational achievement and community involvement. 

Saving Grace also has a support system called “cord of 3” mentors.  Each young woman is assigned three mentors upon moving into the facility.  One mentor is the age of an older sister, another mentor the age of a mother, and then a grandmother aged mentor.   

I asked Becky why they decided on three mentors.  She said that the cord of three came to her husband’s heart one night.  “Though one may be overpowered, two can defend themselves. A cord of three strands is not quickly broken” Eccl. 4:12.  “We encourage the three (mentors) to love, support, and encourage each other as they mentor and do the same for “grace”, said Becky. 

I love the idea that there are three women, mentoring each other as they mentor a young woman with “traumatic soul wounds”, as Becky explained it.  They are able to work together and take a step back when it’s needed.  This kind of support system is helpful for both the mentors and the mentee.  

This is a great way to get involved in mentoring.  If you are in the Northwest Arkansas area, you can get involved with some pretty cool “hands on” activities with SavingGrace.  You can also help this program by praying and donating.  Look in your local area to find places where you can be a mentor, volunteer your time, and make a difference in the lives of young women with the love of Jesus.

Be a saving grace!

Turning Points

I believe that establishing turning points in your life can help you define where you have been and how you got to where you are today.  These places are pivotal in my life.  Turning points and pivotal places can be stepping stones to change or cliffs we tumble off of.  I have discovered that I am more likely to tumble off the cliff when I have not established where I am at. 

Jan, my mentor said, “God gives us grace for each moment, don’t miss it.”  As I pondered her words, it became a stepping stone for change in me.  Sometimes I can get caught up in the emotion of a situation or find myself discontent with my life and I miss what God has for me in that moment.

As this journey began, I received a gift from my friend Debbie.  She is a giver and had no idea that this was going on in my life.  The gift was a devotion book called, “Grace for the Moment” by Max Lucado.

 

The first devotion I read was titled, “God’s Mighty Hand.”  Each devotion starts with a verse; this one is: “Through His power all things were made – things in heaven and on earth, things seen and unseen” Colossians 1:6.  “Look to the canyons to see the Creator’s splendor.  Touch the flowers and see His delicacy.  Listen to the thunder and hear His power…Today you will encounter God’s creation.  When you see the beauty around you, let each detail remind you to lift your head in praise.  Express your appreciation for God’s creations.  Encourage others to see the beauty of His creation.”  

Of course, the devotion is about how God created the heavens and the earth, but the descriptive language he uses reminded me to take each moment of grace.

God used Debbie to give me a resource that will help me each day.  I have had a couple of situations arise but I was able to not let my emotions plummet me over the cliff.  Just as I established forgiveness as a turning point that became stepping stones of change, so now, this becomes a stepping stone on which to keep moving forward in my life.   I don’t want to miss any opportunity to grab a hold of God’s grace for the moment.

Establish turning points in your life and keep climbing upward!

I Am Not Defined

My mentor, Jan, and I had our first meeting.  I intended to get a picture of us to share with you all.  Unfortunately, I forgot!  I really hate it when I do that, because I can never get that moment back.  So, I can’t share a picture, but I can share what God did for me through our meeting.

First of all, I have to let you in on a secret…it makes me nervous to have new people at my house.  When I am meeting someone new, I usually Do Not invite them to my house.  Maybe I’m ashamed of how it looks because I'm not good at decorating.  Maybe I’m embarrassed that we have pulled up the carpet and are walking on concrete, or maybe I just assume everyone’s house looks like the cover of a magazine; except mine.  Whatever the reason, I will not volunteer my home for a meeting place.

However, when Jan called to find out where to meet, I couldn’t wait to have her over.  I was not even tempted to take her offer to buy me lunch somewhere.  I thought maybe it was because it was Jan, but as I searched my heart, I realized I was different.  “I am not defined by the house I live in” I heard myself say.  I continued on with a beautifully orchestrated monologue:  “I am not defined by the car I drive or the clothes I wear.  I am not defined by my abilities and talents (or lack thereof).  I am no longer bound by the chains of comparison.  I will no longer be plagued with the “enough’s”.  If I can be good enough, smart enough, talented enough, or stylish enough.  If I can be pretty enough, rich enough, or successful enough then someone might like me, accept me, and be my friend.   

I shared my monologue with Jan (it was a shame to keep such beauty to myself :)).  She said, “That must be so freeing for you.”  Yes!  That was it!  I was free to be me.  I had never really considered myself a people pleaser or someone who cared a whole lot about what people thought of me, but apparently I was wrong.  The next question I had was: “Where did this new found freedom come from?”  I don’t remember praying for God to help me with this “problem” that I didn’t even know existed.  

Turns out, this was a byproduct of something God did in my heart a few weeks before.  I had been doing an excellent job of beating myself up for all my faults and failures and I was pretty sure that God was joining me with a whip.  As I sat in church on a Sunday morning, the speaker asked, “How many of your sins were future when Jesus died on the cross.”  Answer: “all of them.”  It was an encouraging message that God was not disappointed with us, He loves us, and He knows we are going to make mistakes.  He is not a tyrant ready to punish us for them, but a loving father willing to help us through them, forgive us, pick us up, and dust us off.  

When I realized that God was not disappointed with me it changed my perspective of my relationship with Him.  I had never thought about the domino effect of heart issues, but it totally makes sense now!  When God healed this area of my heart, it also changed my perception of myself.  I am not defined by my house, my car, my clothes, my abilities, or my sins.  I am defined by Christ who lives in me.    

The same is true for you...You Are Not Defined By...